Rape and Sexual Chess - how to avoid checkmate

The boys are told no girl gives up her virginity voluntarily. So this “persuasion” is perfectly permissible. Even worse, for the girls, is that boys are told when the girls say NO they are actually saying YES.

They play so hard to get, getting them is hard work. All this is steeped in the latent male chauvinism of African culture. - Bill Saidi

SHOOT: I suppose it is a different order of magnitude, but one man making phone calls at all hours of the day, coming over whenever he likes, if he is desirable, will be called 'passionate, romantic, in love with me, an amazing lover', another, undesirable will be called a stalker (for doing the same as the above).
I think women should employ common sense - if they don't want men to sleep with them they should dress and act accordingly. I think waiting until the bedroom is leaving things a bit late, but here I offer this from Matthew McConaughey:

"(My dad taught me) If you ever make a move, whether it’s for a kiss or touching her down there, and you feel the slightest bit of resistance, stop. A lot of times, after you stop, they’re going to then say, now it’s OK. Don’t. That time, that day, that’s as far as you go.’

"It’s a great lesson. You do that, and you know what? Women do come back. They say, what? Nobody stops! They want to go out with you again. And eventually you don’t have to stop."

clipped from www.sowetan.co.za The male chauvinists of old used to suggest that a woman who dressed “suggestively” was asking for it. That held water only until logic gurus said this was like saying a bank that didn’t have armed guards was asking to be robbed. Would a court acquit an armed robbery on those grounds alone? Now there is a debate about date rape, sparked by Helen Mirren, an actress to whom I first reacted in a film with the late Peter Sellers. She said “date rape” was, under certain circumstances, not an issue for the courts but one that needed to be “worked through as part of the subtle negotiations of modern gender manners”, according to reports. “Dame Helen’s contention was that a woman who voluntarily ended up in a man’s bedroom and engaged in sexual activity – but then said no to sexual intercourse – could not seriously expect to take that man to court on a charge of rape if he ignored her last-minute insistence that she did not want full sex.” Jacob Zuma is still remembered for something like that.