How to know if your man is a keeper

A guy who makes you feel like the luckiest woman alive -- like you can (and should!) be your confident, fabulous self -- is worth hanging on to. "It's not just about how you feel about him but more about how he makes you feel about yourself," Kirshenbaum says.

SHOOT: I'm not sure if I agree that it's more about him determining how you feel about yourself; what about how you feel about yourself? #1 is interesting. Can't say I have my act together, but wouldn't say I'm a party boy or a screw up.

clipped from dating.personals.yahoo.com #1. Keeper clue: He has his act together. This seems like a no-brainer, but it's a good place to start. "It's very important that you two be able to have a lot of fun together, so a party boy or a screw-up will probably not work out for you," says Mira Kirshenbaum, a family and couples therapist and author of Is He Mr. Right? "No matter how charming he is, if he is still struggling to grow up, it will get very old, very fast." #2. Keeper clue: He puts you first. Picture a delicious platter of grilled steak. Does your man offer it to you first to pick the best piece? He does if he's a keeper! #3. Keeper clue: He's not afraid of your germs. You know a guy is really into you when he can't stay away, even when you're bedridden and snotty. #4. Keeper clue: He's a family man. He asks about your family, and he seems to genuinely want to hear about them. #5. Keeper clue: He makes time for your friends. #6. Keeper clue: He's your biggest cheerleader. #7. Keeper clue: He remembers the little things.