How to be happy...[and knowing what's not helping]

How to be happy starts with knowing what's not helping:

Make little things bother you. Don't just let them, MAKE them.

Lose your perspective on things and keep it lost: don't put first things first.

Get yourself a good worry, one about which you cannot do anything.

Be a perfectionist, which means not that you work hard to do your best, but that you condemn yourself and others for not achieving perfection.

Be right. Be always right. Be the only one who is always right, and be rigid in your rightness.

Don't trust or believe people, or accept them at anything but their worst and weakest.

Be suspicious. Insist that others always have hidden motives.

Always compare yourself unfavorably to others. This guarantees instant misery.

Take personally everything that happens to you.

Don't give yourself whole-heartily to anyone or anything.

Might be a good time to check out these tips at the start of a fresh, new year...

clipped from www.webmd.com Happiness Barrier No. 1: Complexity Solution: Simplify If you simplify your life, you create more space in your day, making it possible to reflect on your life. Happiness Barrier No. 2: A Breakneck Pace Solution: Take a Pause “That kind of tension takes a toll on your soul and your psyche.” clipped from www.webmd.com Happiness Barrier No. 3: Negativity Solution: Let go “Your prison is nothing in comparison with the inner prison of ordinary people: the prison of attachment, the prison of anger, the prison of depression, the prison of pride.” wrote Lama Zopa Rinpoche to a California prisoner Happiness Barrier No. 4: Despair Solution: Stay hopeful clipped from www.webmd.com Happiness Barrier No. 5: Suppressing sadness Solution: Feel the real Having a positive outlook doesn’t mean you never allow yourself to feel sadness. Happiness Barrier No. 6: Navel-gazing Solution: Connect with others It turns out that happiness can spread through social networks, like a virus.