Play Hard to Get and other myths [or are they myths?]

SHOOT: Hard to get is relative. If you're a university student with lots of time on your hands and many suitors, it might be worthwhile to be patient and careful about selecting your partner.

Once you're older and working, hard to get doesn't work so well, simply because there is so little time to get to know someone anyway. Having said that, any person who makes themselves available at the drop of a hat is either very lonely, or desperate, or both. And there might be a reason for that, so be careful. Unfortunately, the person who is lonely and desperate either has to get a life, or, if they have one, must be pretend not to be lonely and desperate or else risk becoming even more lonely and more desperate. Sorry, but people are fickle that way.

clipped from shine.yahoo.com 1. Say “I Love You” Every Day Nancy Kalish, psychologist: I agree that it should be said often, but it should be said sincerely, so it means something. Not just “Good-bye. Love you.” 2. Play Hard to Get Sam Yagan, dating-website cofounder: Playing hard to get starts the relationship off on a deceptive foot. If you want your relationship to be based on trust, honesty, and communication, why would you begin it like that? Greg Behrendt, coauthor of He’s Just Not That Into You: You shouldn’t play hard to get; you should be hard to get, because your life is so busy and fulfilling. My wife and I call it being a MOD―a moving object of desire. 3. Your Spouse Shouldn’t Be Your Best Friend 4. Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder 5. You Can Learn to Love Someone You may not have the love-at-first-sight kind of love, but the deep companion kind of love―in terms of trusting each other and being a team―can develop over time.