The first step is to adjust your mentality and recognize the situation:
# You are not ruining someone's life; they will get over you some day.
#“If you don't break up quickly and honestly, it's unfair to you and the other person.”
# If you are even thinking about breaking up with someone, it's probably time to do it. Would you want to be with someone who was having second thoughts while you were madly in love with them?
# It's going to be ugly and there's nothing anyone can do about it.
Here's an important tip [from firsthand experience]:
Don't sugarcoat the situation. If you're seeing someone else, tell them you're seeing someone else. My little sister broke up with a live-in boyfriend because she kissed another guy during a business trip. She told her boyfriend the deal -- it made it more concrete.
Avoid cliche's like "I love you, I'm just not in love with you." Guys don't understand this stuff. If you've lost feelings for them, just say it. They can't argue with that.
And avoid covering up -- "I just can't be in a relationship right now." Sure you can -- if you were still really into him, you'd be in a relationship with him.
“Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.”
# You are not ruining someone's life; they will get over you some day.
#“If you don't break up quickly and honestly, it's unfair to you and the other person.”
# If you are even thinking about breaking up with someone, it's probably time to do it. Would you want to be with someone who was having second thoughts while you were madly in love with them?
# It's going to be ugly and there's nothing anyone can do about it.
Here's an important tip [from firsthand experience]:
Don't sugarcoat the situation. If you're seeing someone else, tell them you're seeing someone else. My little sister broke up with a live-in boyfriend because she kissed another guy during a business trip. She told her boyfriend the deal -- it made it more concrete.
Avoid cliche's like "I love you, I'm just not in love with you." Guys don't understand this stuff. If you've lost feelings for them, just say it. They can't argue with that.
And avoid covering up -- "I just can't be in a relationship right now." Sure you can -- if you were still really into him, you'd be in a relationship with him.
“Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.”
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